Why Slow Reactions Aren’t Necessarily Bad

“WALK A MILE IN SOMEONE’S MOCCASINS.”

“DON’T JUDGE A BOOK BY ITS COVER.”

These are just two of so many quotes, phrases and teachings that remind us and inspire us all to judge favorably. It is no wonder that there are many familiar and popular sayings we hear and use on a regular basis with this simple teaching. It does not come naturally to most of us.

It seems it is not only easier but maybe even second nature to dive in, react, and judge what is happening in any given situation without pausing to collect more or all of the necessary information. It makes sense that our biological wiring is to react to a situation quickly based on gut and instinct. That necessary instinct is what enabled us to survive in the wild over time. However, that survival instinct to react and defend and judge any given situation quickly most likely does not serve us today on a daily basis, and certainly not in intimate relationships.

This month, may we all find strength to slow our reaction process down. May we have the ability to recognize that most of our interactions are not with the enemy. Most of our daily interactions are with people on the same page as us. Work hard to judge them favorably by collecting as much information as possible.

Blessings, Deb

About Deb Dusansky

Deb has been a Jewish educator for over 20 years directing and teaching children, adults, and families. She is currently the director for Boulder Stepping Stones, an independent family education opportunity for interfaith and Jewish unaffiliated. Deb has been in private practice for over 14 years counseling individuals, couples, and families. She specializes in spiritually centered counseling.

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One comment

  1. so true!! kol hakavod!