Baruch Dayan HaEmet – Barbara Moliver Hubar z”l

Barbara Moliver Hubar z”l, Sara Sturtz’s mother, passed away early Thursday morning, December 13, 2018. She was a mover and shaker: making things happen in her family and community over the years, and literally dancing nearly until her last days. Below is a remarkable photo of her and some words about her person and values from Sara.  One way to honor her and to build her merit through our mitzvot is to donate in her memory to American Red Cross.

While Sara is in Portland through the shiva period, we will be in touch in the coming week or two about a gathering when Sara and Rob are back in Boulder.

HaMakom yenachem etchem – may Sara, Rob, Ben, Dan, and Jon, and the whole family be comforted.

Margery Barbara Moliver Hubar, my mom, died this morning, December 13, in the early hours near Boca Raton, Florida. She was 95 years old. The accompanying photo is from V-E Day in 1945. Mom was a beautiful woman and very stylish. She was born in Brooklyn, NY in 1923 and lived in Canada and Chicago at various times in her life. My grandparents were Lawrence and Hattie Arrons, both immigrants, as was my father. Her only sibling, Melville Arrons, predeceased her. Like many of her generation, Mom spoke Yiddish and pursued high school and college education later in life. We were very proud of her accomplishments. She had a quirky sense of humor which we Molivers seem to have inherited and when we would laugh together, it made lasting memories. My brothers and I are filled with Margie-stories and adventures!

My mother’s most outstanding talents really defined her. She was a talented artist, very creative and innovative. She could sew, paint, knit, decorate, dance, play bridge, card games and word puzzles. She hardly seemed to sleep and accomplished so much every day. She danced in her late teens and toured with the USO entertaining troops during the war.

Later, Mom was a secretary and spent years in her five-inch heels commuting into New York City on the LIRR. In her “spare time”, she volunteered for American Red Cross and the Heart Fund. She performed in plays at our synagogue and in the community, usually doing the costuming as well! Sometime in my adolescence Mom was named Mother of the Year in our town of Oceanside, New York. It was a well-deserved honor.

She and Dad moved to San Diego as they approached retirement. Several years after Dad’s death in 1984, she met and married Ben Hubar and they were married more than twenty years.

Late in life Mom began to show signs of increasing dementia. The last few years were very quiet as she lost her ability to speak and eventually recognized no one. I really felt I said good-bye last Spring.  She was up and walking around her living area all day long until just recently!  When her ability to move stopped, her illness seemed to speed up.

I feel her neshama is finally at peace.  She lived a good and long life married to Hy Moliver and after his death, to Ben Hubar of Winnipeg, Canada. She and my dad had four children – Gary Moliver (Linda), Sara Jane (Robert Sturtz), Don Moliver (Gail) and Clay Moliver (Michelle); nine grandchildren, Seth (Patti) Moliver and Bena Moliver Halloran (Chris), Ben (Erin), Dan (Hetta) and Jon Sturtz, McKenzie (Aaditya Paniraj) and Harrison Moliver, Hunter (Anne) and Morgan Moliver (fiance Erik Atkinson.)  She was blessed to have five great-grandchildren: Aidan and Chloe Moliver, Ayla and Zev Sturtz and Rachel Moliver.

May her memory be for a blessing.

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