Older Boulder Love

Some people like to talk about mountains they’ve climbed, or countries they have visited, or books they have read. I like to talk about how people fall in love.

On early Sunday mornings, when the New York Times arrives on our doorstep, the very first thing I read, always, is the Vows Section that shares the love stories of couples who’ve gotten married. Here’s the deal. I see the world through “Love Colored Glasses.”

I love love….but not just for myself and the sweet guy I have been “practicing” with for the past three decades, my husband Monte. I’m a relationship advocate, and a cheerleader for connection for all people of all ages. I’m a firm believer in the mantra “You are never too old, and it’s never too late, to find love.”

I guess that’s why when I trained as a Life Coach I chose to specialize in the area that I did… helping older people get back into dating after divorce and loss. How did I decide on that niche to focus my “Toe In the Water” Life Coaching practice? Well…when we were finishing up our 18-month training, we were asked to consider a brilliant question before we launched our practice: “What comes so naturally to you that people can’t pay you to stop doing?” For me that was easy…I want to talk about finding love and I want to help people meet people.

About five years ago Monte and I began an exploration of Jewish Mindfulness and Meditation, and we both trained to be teachers with the Institute for Jewish Spirituality.  I have found that the tools for meditation and mindfulness — moment to moment presence, equanimity and curiosity — can be apply to the dating process as well.

The Boulder JCC will be hosting a Mindful Dating Coaching session on Zoom on Thursday, September 1, from 5 to 6 p.m. This free program will be a great opportunity for those who want to lean into their dating lives later in life in a more conscious way by putting down some emotional baggage from the past. Cultivating “beginner’s mind” later in life may seem like an oxymoron, but in fact, it may be the simplest and clearest path to making new connections and finding love.

This program is open to everyone ages 55+, including all sexual orientations and gender expression. Click here to register for the Mindful Dating: Making a Love Connection Later in Life program. You’ll be glad you did!